December 24, 2014
“Hi Gregg, you are such a special person. Thank you for being a public person. You are an angel and a healer for so many because of your experiences. Sometimes we take the hits that others would be too weak to sustain...so that we can help them, looking through the same lens. I send you so many blessings and much heart.”
October 27, 2014
Well, I finished your books. Actually yesterday, but I'm still processing. I can't really tell you how I feel, I have not the words. Deep sorrow for you and your siblings. I feel sorry for your parents, but I think what they did was a choice. We can blame a lot on alcoholism, but for me it's a lame excuse. I realize you probably don't care to re-hash all this again, so I'll stop there with my soap box opinions I want to thank you for teaching me so many things I never knew about sexual abuse. There is a lot I already knew, since I'm also a survivor. I don't want sympathy, it is what it is. One of the things I learned, and to be honest I was shocked, is male promiscuity. It never occurred to me that happened. I suppose it's the same for males and females, mentally and emotionally. Anyway, thank you again for enlightening me, putting what happened to you into words with such insight. I could never tell it the way you have. Godspeed and congrats on your latest 5k and 10k run.
October 16, 2014
Bangkok, Thailand / Texas, U.S.A.
"Wow, after watching the Oprah episode I felt so bad for you. I commended you for all courage that it took for you to overcome this nightmare. Also wanted to compliment you for raising your son with love and devotion, as it shown on the Oprah segment. I had the great privilege to read some of the exerpts from the Landscapes of the Heart in Bangkok. I love it, very well written really show your softer side and your passion for life and may I added very romantic when it's come to certain character. Now I understand “smells of a sweet fragrance” but what the heck is “shade- blossom?” "
"Al, you are truly a sweet man and one of compassionate people I am so happy to know exist in this world. Thank you for the beautiful comment quoted below regarding Landscapes of the Heart. P.S. A shade-blossom is a delicate flower which survives and remains pretty even in the midst of a storm. It remains an overtone that doesn’t manifest itself in words but natural beauty. It has no reason to live accept to love and simply "be." A description that could easily be someone like "you." Thank you, again my friend!
October 16, 2014
From the first word to the last word, Landscapes of the Heart emanates with thriving beyond great darkness. The lesson is to thrive, not die, nor survive. This book is about love; the only thing that can push us through the darkness instead of giving up. There is nothing more painful nor more beautiful. Really, there is nothing else.
The previous volumes detailed terrible darkness. Landscapes of the Heart is the retort: A billion fiery arrows illuminating and reclaiming once forgotten corridors. This is the renaissance of beauty and love; an awakening from dark ages. The resistance.
Landscapes of the Heart is written to make you aware when most things are only designed to distract. It will beckon you to feel compassion for anyone who suffers. It will challenge you to do what you know is right. And the more you suppress love, the more you will be thrown off like a weak rider. Will you crawl away or take responsibility and stand up?
Please don't miss the point: This is NOT a challenge of ego. This is NOT the marketing of product. There is a message for you, the reader - a human being. It is the sincere hope of a young child, then an adult: 'please help make this world beautiful and not so lonely - so ugly.' We can make it better.
Sometimes, we must lead each other out of hell so we can see heaven. On earth. It can be as simple as allowing yourself to read these words. 'Please just understand.' Simple. Aren't we all reaching out and pleading that our world not be so lonely or ugly? Who will listen if we do not?
Dad, I am listening. We can hang out and laugh at absurd bullshit. If I'm thrown I will get back up. I am with you. The light is more real than the dark, fleeing like a coward from only a tiny spark when flint meets steel; when compassion meets education. Everything will all be alright.
--Gregg Tyler Milligan II
October 13, 2014
I just finished a two volume book by one of our own Ypsilantians, Gregg Tyler Milligan. One book, the first, is called "A Beautiful World", and the Second is "Good Must be Sleeping". It's his story growing up in a household with unimaginable abuse by his mother, neglect by his father, further abuse by other family members, and his struggle to overcome his sordid past with help of a few good people along the way. I first saw him on a clip from Oprah's show, and I've been meaning to read it ever since. I'm glad I did.
October 1, 2014
I wanted to sincerely thank an amazing author (Tyler) so much, or my nickname for him (Millie 143) for writing A Beautiful World and God Must Be Sleeping. I have spent the last 2.5 years reading the first English written book ever in my entire life: God Must Be Sleeping. I wish I could have read it faster, but like Millie always tells me, “nothing is too far away…we can make it.” Thank you for always telling me that!
Millie is an amazing Fighter. Reading both his first two books may have taken me a long time, but after wards I love myself even more! All because of you…thank you!
His books showed me a much deeper understanding of myself and the world and they also helped me realize that nothing in life is too complicated. ‘Just Do It and Make It Happen!’ I now believe in myself even more and know it is mine and everyone’s responsibility to love ourselves and protect those we love. Millie’s books showed me how to endure and how both Love and Hope are so amazing. Everyone should read his books!
The books are so clear and well written that it was easy to see even for someone who’s native language is not English that love and hope are possible. The way he writes shows the reader we are truly here to save one another and you are encouraged greatly because how vivid and clearly he writes. Like a bright light is given to the reader through his words and one is lit inside the reader as well. Each chapter is so clearly written. The subject and story easily will help the world. Like Millie always says, “It is not my story, but our story.” Now, I finally understand what that means!
Millie’s books are so helpful and would be for my own country (Thailand) as well. They are so worth reading and should be read by the whole world.
Thank you for allowing me to be a part of your ‘giving back’ and thank you so much, Tyler for your soul, your heart, love and all the hard work you put into giving back to me – and all those who fall deep inside your heart who need help. There are so many.
All my love, Pimmy 143 (Thailand)
October 1, 2014
I took ‘Landscapes’ to the doctor’s office last week and then it went to the hospital with me. I finished the last 200 pages there. I truly was glad to have it with me. I really like your writing style, Gregg. It just flows! After your writing style, the pictures are perfect tool. I had to buy a stronger pair of glasses though. If the print were larger I could not have even lifted the book.
I can’t believe what you have lived through in your life. I found it very hard to read your first two books, but now I want to go back to read then again.
Landscapes does give a hopeful lift to your and the wonderful work you are doing. Love and compassion evolves over and over again.
Some of my favorite parts / those that really moved me (there are so many! here's a few) within Landscapes of the Heart:
p.508 – invitation to the Oprah Winfrey show.
p.509 – book receipts “giving back”
p.550 – regarding all the bad people in the world, I remind myself I would not be here if it weren’t for the good people.
p.585 – as a child I made up my mind that I would not give up.
p.594 – 8 year old boy raped – head decapitated and wrapped in a black garbage bag – abusers were mother and boyfriend!
p.596 – Love Always Wins!
p.603 – Stay Focused.
p.605 – the Thai look for a smile and if you show them one, you are their friend forever.
p.627 – hope and peace are always stronger than violence.
p.628 – like your picture of Gregg II!!
p.656 – interesting trips through the jungle.
p.667 – a whole page of nature like writing “…chaste eve, silvery sheen of the water and light blue sky…”
p.668 – 50 monkeys literally owned the place.
p.673 – march 15, 2012 – senses that it might be his last, but Gregg is back in Thailand and with his son two years later, Aug – Sep, 2014.
p.675 – I haven’t been commenting on the pictures, but this one is rare.
p.676 – Gregg looks forward to seeing you, Sarah.
p.684 – Tina’s story … so sad.
p.690 – abuse is like a paper shredder…you go in whole and come out in pieces…abuse is forever.
p.690 – Gino died in a car accident.
p.699 – love and compassion – hope for change.
p.700-01 – on the Ricki Lake Show!
p.702 – the only thing you need is caring…that is where I get my power.
--------just a few notes--------
Love and Prayers, Sr. Barb, O.P. Dominican Order
September 23, 2014
September 23, 2014 – New Jersey
You simply cannot teach altruism. It is an enlightenment that comes from a higher power that most people never experience in their lives. It is sad. Some people understand why we are here, and you, Mr. Milligan, truly "get it".... "We are here to help each other". You have done amazing things with your life and have helped so many people out here. I am so very proud of all of your accomplishments and I'm just a FB friend.
You have no idea how your books have opened our eyes to your perspective of life. My husband "gets" you. You help those who really need and appreciate help. You expect nothing in return because somewhere in your soul you developed an ethical way of living. You give out of love for humanity and the hope that others will pay it forward. That is a very big deal!
Love and hugs from us to you!
September 23, 2014
You have helped and are helping so many people.
September 23, 2014
Dear Gregg and (Tyler) –You are our rock. Thank you again for laying your soul down in front of us so that we may follow. Your soul is still (yours) and not sold. Thank you again for dispelling the stigma the world had regarding fathers. One in which I once believed in.
I see all of the many amazing organizations you visit and speak. You are really giving hope. You show us that there are many helpers out there in the midst of all this evil. You are a modern angel and have continued a circle of healing.
Please never stop writing.
September 22, 2014
I am a teacher who taught for more than 40 years at all levels in the United States academic system, and have both my Master's and Bachelor's degrees. I have to say I was impressed by this book - the smoothness of the writing, the flow - it was just perfect. I couldn't put it down! I thoroughly enjoyed it from beginning to end. I laughed, cried, and learned from this book.
The message contained within the book's pages is amazing - not only what the author survived - but his message of how everyone can make it - from the individual to our global society. He supports his message with straightforward, clear examples which are beautifully detailed and proven. I have followed the author's work for a few years now including his most recent workshops in Thailand. His offer to speak/lecture for free to universities is astounding - the application of his work crosses every discipline and profession. His teachings are an incredible benefit to faculty, students and those practicing in the field - healthcare, social work, law enforcement, and legal - or any other area of study. I was also shocked to learn he has offered the rights to his book to be reprinted and added to any curriculum with all profits benefiting the gaining institution in a program called "Completing the Circle". Honestly I could not see a university turning down this offer.
This is a man with much to share with the world. I would absolutely recommend his book to anyone. The hard-fought insights, wisdom and proven examples within it are worth their weight in gold. If you are looking for 'the answers', look no further than Landscapes of the Heart.”
-Sr. Barb O.P., Dominican Order of Clergy (retired)
September 19, 2014
“I have some things about your 1st book, “A Beautiful World” that stay with me, that i would love to reflect. I hope I do not overstep boundaries, it is always the danger, that that happens, when we (survivors) start talking. It becomes intimate right away. But i think, we must learn to accept, that that is part of our language. To not talk about it, would be staying in the past and that is no option, anymore.
I felt like run over by a car, so much i related. I went with you through it all and cried with the boy and the man. What lingers still in me, is your afterword. The ugly things inside. To me, I begin to feel, like it is the memory, of him, that still haunts me and is and stays the death like feeling of the past. But I wonder, if that feeling of the ugliness, is not just normal. This is really hard to explain, because it is on an emotional level.
Reading your books always makes it clear, that i am not alone. We know about each other’s fears and I hold you and cry with you for a moment in my thoughts, because we need it. And it is our right, to cry it all out. We did not deserve this crippling abuse. That we deserved loving, protecting parents, but now we can be those loving parents.
I know you know all this already – Your Books!! Btw, my therapist is very taken by them too.”
September 19, 2014
“Before you read Landscapes of the Heart you need to read “God Must be Sleeping.” It was also written by Gregg Milligan. He first wrote “A Beautiful World.” You can get both books together by buying “God Must be Sleeping.” It is not an easy read, but a very necessary read. If you have been abused or know anyone that has been abused you need to read this book. I can guarantee that you know someone who has been abused.
His first book is about his early childhood and “God Must be Sleeping” is about his life after being placed in foster homes. He is a champion and a hero. If he can survive and thrive with all that he has been through anyone can.
“Landscapes of the Heart a Survivor’s Guide” is about his adult life as a survivor of extreme abuse of every kind. He is now an advocate for children and all who have been abused in any way. He repeatedly writes that abuse of any kind is wrong. He also is passionate about being compassionate. He is probably one of the most compassionate people that you could ever meet. He loves all people, except those who abuse. He even loved his mother who was the most vicious abusive monster that there could be in the world. He was loving and compassionate enough for his sisters to be at their sides at his monstrous mother’s death bed.
His father and stepmother were also monsters that verbally abused him at every opportunity. He still wanted to please his father. I believe that his father was very jealous of him. Instead of congratulating and encouraging him on his accomplishments, he ridiculed him and tried to instill fear in him.
He went into the Marines and graduated but decided that he didn’t advocate what the Marines stood for. His father raged about him being a loser. He then joined the Air Force mainly because he wanted to fly. Reading about his experiences in the military and war are pretty horrific. If he didn’t have PTSD from all of the childhood abuse the war was bound to make him a candidate for it. He is against killing, war and abuse of any kind and has spent the rest of his life trying to save and help others.
Gregg is very candid about the scars that he will forever carry because of the abuse that he went through as a child. He has to take medication to sleep at night because he is still tortured with nightmares from the horrific abuse that he endured as a child.
He is very passionate and furiously protective of his sister Pug and the love that he had for his sister Tina that died from an accidental overdose. He is heartbroken over that loss. He knows firsthand how abuse affects children. His dear sister is a prime example of the devastation that child abuse causes. Those who have been abused are more likely to become addicts, have eating disorders, etc. It is common for those who have been abused to become abusers themselves or to marry those who are molesters. It is imperative for survivors to get therapeutic help to heal the wounds. The scars will always be there but you can still have a good life. Abuse is a worldwide epidemic. Our government is also responsible for its people. We are not a priority. We should all have access to the mental and physical help that we need. Insurance companies are the bane of those who need help. We need radical changes in this country to help everyone get the medical and mental help that they need. Gregg is passionate about this cause. Maybe if Tina had the help that she needed she would have survived.
His first marriage was a nightmare. His first wife was a monster. Like a wolf in sheep’s clothing, she ended up being like Gregg’s mother in many ways. She didn’t start out that way, or didn’t appear so. She made his life miserable but worse yet for the life of their son. He fought for and moved hell and earth for his son Gregg II. He was the father for his son that he never had. He talks repeatedly about breaking the cycle of abuse. I believe that he has done that to the best of his ability. Unfortunately his son has to have many emotional scars because of his horribly abusive mother and how she tried to and succeeded for a while, by alienating him from his father.
He finally got rid of the albatross that was his first wife, and found love with Daisy who he left because of a significant age difference; I believe out of love for her yet they have still remain close friends. Gregg can do the work that he loves, helping others. He does many speaking engagements about his abuse and educating everyone on how to stop abuse and how to help those that have been abused.
His 3rd book is 860 pages so this is a long review. It is a combination of his life, his many successes and his love of Thailand. Gregg has photos of Thailand, his friends there and his many beautiful experiences in that country. He has taken his journal entries and compiled them into this book. If you love nature and God’s earth you will love reading of the beauty of Thailand.
He no longer has to be gainfully employed as he has become financially independent because of his amazing talent for finance. He unfortunately found out what sharks there are in the corporate world. He has battled for right but it has not been without many wounds. It is horrifying to read about how greedy and evil those in power usually are.
He writes passionately about the wrongs of the world and yet as passionately about all that is right. His drawings are included in his book and also photos of him in different stages of his life. He has friends all over the world and has many that are now family of his own choosing. He is humble and yet proud in a good way of all he has overcome. He volunteers his time helping others. He writes about the importance of saving our world. We are polluting and destroying it. We need to take care of it. It is not our right to destroy our world. He is as passionate about other countries and other peoples as he is about his own.
He is also passionate about how important it is that we have stricter laws against those who molest and abuse children. He has gone so far as to say that they should get the death penalty. I do believe that in most cases those that molest children repeatedly do not change. They are soul murderers and have no remorse. It is appalling that these monsters can molest and rape children and some don’t even serve any jail time. A thief can end up spending more time in prison than a parent that has repeatedly molested and raped their children. There are mothers that have participated in and known about their spouses or boyfriends molesting their children that never serve any jail time. These atrocities need to stop! Laws need to change to protect the victims not the perpetrators.
In spite of many losses and heartaches over the deaths of those that he loved and loves he still presses on to make this a better world. He writes repeatedly how important it is for us to all save each other. We are here to help each other.
It is important to know that all proceeds that he makes on his books go to help those who are victims and survivors of abuse.””
September 16, 2014
Mahasarakhan University, Thailand
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-Lecturer Department of Education, Mahasarakham University
September 15, 2014
“ในวันที่ 10 กันยายน 2557 ที่ผ่านมา ฝ่ายวิเทศสัมพันธ์ ได้จัดจัดอบรมในหัวข้อ How to preserve, promote, and improve the health and well-being of populations, communities, and individuals for Thais โดยผู้เชี่ยวชาญชาวต่างชาติ คือ Mr. Gregg Tyler Milligan, Wayne State University, Michigan, USA. โดยมีคณาจารย์ บุคลากร และนิสิตเข้าร่วมในการอบรมครั้งนี้ ทั้งสิ้น 22 คน ซึ่งในการบรรยายครั้งนี้ มีเนื้อหาเกี่ยวกับแนวทางในการดำเนินงานด้านสาธารณสุข และได้กล่าวถึงการร่วมมือกันทั้งสถาบันการศึกษา รัฐบาล รวมทั้งหน่วยงานที่เกี่ยวข้องในด้านสาธารณสุข สามารถศึกษาข้อมูลเพิ่มเติมได้จากเอกสารแนบค่ะ”
+In the past September 10, 2014, Director of International Affairs has organized training in the topic How to preserve, promote, and improve the health and well-being of populations, communities, and individuals for Thais by foreign experts, is that Mr. Gregg Milligan, Tyler Wayne State University, Michigan, USA., with faculty and students to participate in this workshop, all 22 people, in this lecture. Content guidelines for public health action and discussed cooperation of educational institutions. The Government, as well as agencies involved in public health. Can learn more from the enclosure.”
- Mahasarakham University Department of Public Health
September 4, 2014
Orlando Beach, FL
“I have been following your journeys for a little over a year. I've read your first books and am working through this new one. I am a behavior therapist/mental health counselor and my husband is a survivor of incest. Your insight through your books has been very helpful to me not only in my professional life, but also in my personal life.
I am enjoying your picture documentary this week and I was wondering if you would share with me what brought you to Thailand originally and your journey there to change the lives of the people.
Thanks, keep on keeping on, it's noticed and appreciated.”
September 2, 2014
“Happy birthday Gregg Tyler Milligan you are one of my inspiration. Wish you all the best. And thank you so much for that (at Thammasat University) day you made me feel power up to help the children. I won't give up and won't stop to do my best for benefit of Child."
September 2, 2014
“I read both of your books because my husband is a survivor. I have a better understanding his perspective now because of you. Thank you so very much for this new ability. He suppressed his memories for over 30 years and then I had a medical crisis. His personality split off in many different directions and he began to act erratically all the while smiling to me recovering in bed. I had no idea what he was doing while away from me. He had just retired from the military, we visited his family and moved across the country.
We live day to day but now that we know what was wrong and talk freely about it we are relatively happy. Anyway, i just wanted to let you know how much i really appreciate your books. It has let us know we are not alone. And it doesn't matter how many times somebody looks at us funny because my husband was sexually abused by his mother. We are not that rare. It just takes balls to admit you have been violated and now need help. Thank you, thank you!”
Septmber 2, 2014
"Wishing you a Happy Birthday and thanking you for helping to create a community free of child abuse."
SafePath Advocacy, http://www.safepath.org/
September 2, 2014
"Love everything you have written and will always help you help others through education and awareness. We can all save one another and make a difference!"
August 31, 2014
Amazon Website [5 Star Rating]
This review is from: Landscapes of the Heart - A Survivor's Guide (Paperback)
"Wow! An incredible look into the journey of a true survivor. Gregg Milligan's books are so very poignant, with every turn of the page, your heart is touched in ways that are so surreal.
A definite must-read book as a follow up to his previous book "God Must Be Sleeping".
This book will change you forever. Thank you "Millie" for sharing your story. We are forever grateful."
August 31, 2014
Amazon Website [5 Star Rating]
This review is from: Landscapes of the Heart - A Survivor's Guide (Paperback)
"I find in his 3rd book, Gregg Milligan shares more of his life, his hard won victories against devastating odds and ever present nightmares. He shares the best and worst of his life so others can see two prevalent things. That love can help you survive and he lays out a path to guide you in helping others. This book spans America to southeast Asia. From the safety of his Nest , manipulations of board rooms,the toll of military duty to abject poverty. We see the ugliness of greed, the beauty of Thailand, and always love fighting to survive. A must read for people who want a better world!"
August 27, 2014
Ann Arbor, MI
“It has been a slow read for me honestly, but I am enjoying savoring the whole process. I used to be a speed reader and it is almost frustrating on one side to see that I haven't read the whole thing yet, but at the same time I am actually processing every word. The book isn't just a summer read, which is what I love about it.
All I can say Gregg is that you have been a warrior for love from the moment you were born...where you are now is your destiny. There are so many people who have gone through only a fraction of what you have and just crumble, give in to despair and darkness. Getting to know you has been a pleasure and even more so as I read this book.
You give me hope that there are more people like the two of us out there....that there are so many!! You give me hope that I can conquer anything that comes my way and that just because I have go through trails in the past, it does not define the person I am.”
August 24, 2014
“I really think your books should be part of the library of every therapist that works with victims. I gave them to my therapist, i just hope, they will be translated in to German and many other languages, but I suspect, they will be, in time. They are so important, because you cover the whole "spectrum". Your books are a big help! For victims and the people that work with them!
I hope I get across what I want to say. I am a mother of a 17 year old girl and a 12 year old boy. I have MS (but am still and hoping it stays that way) and able to live my life as I choose. First of all, I want to thank you for surviving! - Thank you, for giving us all a voice. Thanks for sharing your pain and suffering as well as your way to recovery and healing. Your courage to speak the unspeakable will help many of us to find their voice too and helps them to make the first step..... You are wonderful and tender and I am grateful, that you too are reclaiming your life!
For so long, the past overshadowed everything and kept me captive. Now I too, claim year by year back. I am a fellow survivor. I was wounded and self-medicating. Later I moved to the U.S. and started working with street kids. I started to work through things and started intense trauma therapy - working with the kids that had so similar stories, I was able to relate to and get through to them, and I did not get stuck in self-pity, during the process of working on my issues. But still today at 48 there are still times, where the past gets the best of me and it frustrates me, that it still can sneak up at me demanding... time! Sigh.
I lost my husband, a man I was finally able to trust, when he died while I was seven-months pregnant and chose to return to Switzerland where I was close to a big circle of friends to help me cope. Since then, I find that even though the love was short, I was happy. I love parenthood and being with my kids. They help the healing so much. It is like they melt away my walls in an instant and I promised them that I will protect them as long as possible until they have strong wings to carry them. Being a parent, I finally learned to release both my parents and understood what being a parent is supposed to be. My mother is trying to recover and so I allowed her back into my life. She told me also the children are like a redemption to her and healing.
Today I am my best friend and coach myself through the fear attacks that I still have sometimes. My wish is to reach as many of ‘us’ as possible. I take time with the young survivors one by one and talk at schools and shelters.
When I saw you on a rerun of Oprah, I went through it all with you. I cried with you and was so grateful that you are alive. What stuck with me were your words “I am still in that house”. I understood so well. I am so grateful you give us victims/survivors the words and tools.
Thank you again for sharing yourself and your gift to give back. And thank you for being a FATHER! Gregg that is the biggest gift you give me. You show me how a father CAN be. To see that is healing. I cannot tell you how much, but trust me when I say that gave me a big piece of the puzzle on my way to recovery. You are helping to heal my father picture.
You have a gift with words. Not just your voice, but what you write as well and it is wonderful. That makes it double precious. (I am an apprentice as a bookseller and translated for many years, because the written word is do dear to me).
So, this thankful Swiss sends you love, courage and continuous healing, and always humor, in all of it. You are a wonderful man and father. (They all should take classes from you, every man, survivor or not, to get that meaning of fatherhood before they have kids! i mean that!)
And Gregg, not only are you the exception, you are the miracle.
In deep understanding.”
August 24, 2014
"I just love reading your book. The writing just FLOWS. Everything comes together so well. It's just MARVELOUS!! I really can't explain it. It's just perfect!!!"
August 21, 2014
Ho Chi Minh, Vietnam
"Oh Bobo, what could I say... No one wrote about me in my life ... You just filled my heart full of shyness and happiness ... That was wonderful and memorized adventure you offered me! Thank you sw eet Tyler! I gave you nothing but you gave me too much and you simply don't expect anything in a return."
August 19, 2014
Ann Arbor, MI
This review is from: Landscapes of the Heart - A Survivor's Guide (Paperback)
"Mr. Milligan has followed up his previous books with only something better! This book is heavy in weight and content, you can feel the importance of the words just by picking it up off the table.
This book is more than just a memoir, it is a book about surviving and thriving.
This book can be read by anyone, in any position in life...whether you have been directly affected by abuse or not. Everyone can learn something about living life to the fullest and doing the best you can not only for yourself but everyone around you."
August 12, 2014
Amazon Website [5 Star Rating]
This review is from: Landscapes of the Heart - A Survivor's Guide (Paperback)
"Milligan takes us on an intriguing journey filled with emotion, passion, and insight into the world of abuse and survival. From the very first page you know you are in the hands of a masterful, wonderful and evocative author who delves deeply into the subject matter with personal accounts and testimonials that take the reader through the dark corners, revealing new, and at times startling truths about pain as well as love. I found Landscapes of the Heart to be both moving and memorable."
August 11, 2014
"... Gregg II is born ... I felt like I was in the hospital walking the halls with them. I'm so tempted to read ahead to see what happens... The book kept me up late last night. All I can say is wow. Scared to start again 2nite because I was too sleepy to work 2day. Got up early for church with only a few hours of sleep. Going to bed now so I can hopefully get up early to get ready for our meeting.
This really should be on the big screen."
August 7, 2014
"Reading your first book now...then on to the next :) You are an amazing man Gregg. Thank you for sharing your mind, heart and soul."
August 7, 2014
"I read God Must Be Sleeping in less time than that lol. Actually, i had just started to read it again when i found out the new book was out on Kindle. Gregg's books are hard to put down once you start to read them."
August 3, 2014
Amazon Website [5 Star Rating]
"If you are looking for hope - grab on to this. I'd describe myself as a cynic - definitely no rose-colored glasses here. So I was surprised when I found myself with a surge of hope after reading this book - and not some pie-in-the-sky kind.
Landscapes of the Heart is a gritty example of how the world works with logical sound points that ground you. Scraping / scrapping to make it to the next day when all seems lost, or at the least - incredibly exhausting. And finding love and joy in places both expected and not - the stuff that makes life worth living - and fills your heart with that breathy happiness that is brief but awesome.
Make no mistake - the dysfunctional abusers abound in all shapes and sizes - from the ugliest of relationships, relatives, corrupt bosses - but the author, Milligan won't let them take him out - even through the heartbreak of parenting without a shred of support - unemployment and poverty - the effects of his past -unexpected death of dear loved ones, like his childhood best friend who served honorably and suffered the horrific aftereffects. And his beautiful sister who he loved with all of his heart. You know - the stuff so many of us go through.
I'd be surprised if there was anyone that couldn't relate to one aspect of this book. He tells you how he made it through - and sometimes not so much - but still he held on sometimes by the thinnest thread, He writes so honestly and visually that I could feel exactly the waves of joy and pain as he learned and changed. Just like all of us -sometimes slow and sometimes fast -through challenges, mistakes and the hard days of life that find us all. He even builds in examples of others - from world leaders to the people just trying to make it from day to day.
This book is a grabber - and it will stick with you. The kicker is it isn't just rhetoric - it explains - shows - and proves that the way you and everyone else on this planet make it - is only one way - by making your own choice to ensure what you do makes this life worth it for yourself and others. I'm not going to tell you how - that's Milligan's job. And he does it to a 'T'."
"I'm loving the book. I also loved the introduction. I just started 2 days ago. He just finished the USAF program and he and Mandy are married. This could be a movie!"
July 24, 2014
"Brilliant writing!! You are extraordinarily articulate & poetic! Loved the description of your military experiences- made me think of Collin. Not quite done but you have written a masterpiece, you were definitely meant to be an Author! Kisses to you sweetheart, would love to give you a big hug!"
July 24, 2014
"I am so humbled by your beautiful letter, pure poetry. I was a little intimidated to send my painting to you because you are so amazingly talented. You made my day. I love you sweetheart and I hate to think of you being clear around the world. I know that your heart is there. Love and many prayers. You are my inspiration dear heart. I am still reading your latest book. I have never heard a father who is so in love with his son as you are. Lucky son, I am so sorry that you both have had to go thru so very much to get together.
You are so brave but then I know that. I can't imagine the freedom of being able to fly! I never rode in an airplane until I was 50. I loved it, but still can't understand how a plane stays in the air. You are multi-talented. I love in your book how you talk about how you feel when you are flying. The freedom and escape from this world. I hate the war though, and the atrocities that people do to others just because of politics. You are a very strong man. Love you."
July 16, 2014
"I read Gregg Milligan's first two books. I could not get the characters out of my head; and that's exactly what a book should do. Those are the best books ... when the characters stay with you."
Barnes & Noble Book Website [5 Star Rating]
"A friend recommended this book to me - and I owe them big time. A friend recommended this book to me - and I owe them big time. Milligan's book is a complete 180 from the usual self-help book that is removed from the reality of day to day life and is confusing (if you are like me - you feel worse after reading those books). Milligan welcomes you into his own life experiences, which he uses to make his points very clearly (including some really tough times and mistakes) that any person could relate to and I really liked how he also ties in facts from other sources. You quickly grasp how what he has learned makes perfect sense. And you'll laugh and cry while reading it. I was really surprised at how much better I felt about my own life after I read his book. I've even started using some of the suggestions he has in my own life and the difference is tremendous. This is a 5-star book for sure; you won't be disappointed."
June 28, 2014
"This is an amazing author and all of his books are simply a confirmation of the resiliency of the human spirit! Buy this book and open your heart to survival under the worst circumstances!!"
"I started reading Landscapes of the Heart and it is a must have. Not only is Gregg a survivor and a child advocate. He is one of the most persistent man I have ever heard of. I can't imagine a child not giving up with all that he endured. Now this book is not only about more of his life, struggles and triumphs, but helps other survivors recover."
June 23, 2014
Halifax, Nova Scotia
"I really want the kindle version (Landscapes of the Heart). I spend a lot of time in my car driving for my job and I have it read the book to me (God Must Be Sleeping).
Your book has given me insight into the cases I have, sometimes I don't know what's going on in a home but after reading your book, researching and studying, I am picking up on things I didn't see before. So, no pressure, but... I need that eBook soon!!"
June 5, 2014
"Just finished the book. U r truly amazing and inspirational. So much to share with u in time. Soon, but our pasts r so similar in some ways it is shocking and I feel like I found a long lost friend! I love that book so much, I feel as though ur telling my story in many ways and that is rare to find, as most people have no understanding of what life was like and the struggles and joys of recovery.
May 11, 2014
"If you haven't read "A Beautiful World" by Gregg Tyler Milligan, which is his first book, you can read that along with God Must Be Sleeping. He has been very generous including the first book in with "God Must Be Sleeping." I think that it is a much more accurate title for both books. If you are expecting the first one to be about a beautiful world you will be sadly mistaken. That is not to say that Gregg hasn't turned his horribly abusive childhood into a beautiful world for him and those around him. He has to be one of the most amazing people that I have ever met. I too am a survivor of sexual abuse but nothing near the extent that he has survived. He was not only physically abused to the point of near death but he was sexually abused and starved. If I didn't meet him in person at Siena University where he spoke about his life and how he triumphed over the evil and despair, I would not believe that he could have survived all the abuse that he endured.
This is not an easy book to read. Gregg and his siblings were held captive by an alcoholic, abusive, vile mother. Their father wasn't any better but was not living with them after he left their mother; although he put in appearances to take out their drunken mother to drink with him. He beat her in front of them one time to the point of knocking her eye out of its socket. She had to be resuscitated by the paramedics. She wouldn't press charges so he went scott-free to continue his reign of terror on other women.
Gregg's older brother Carter tried to protect Gregg and his younger sister Lynn. The brothers both tried to protect her. They found her hiding in the attic, the most terrifying room in the house once. She was terrified of coming out because their mother told her that their father was going to rape her. They found out later that he had raped their other older sisters. This terror on top of the fact that her own mother molested her was more than her little soul could bear.
I am amazed that Gregg was able to keep such a compassionate loving spirit. In spite of the horror and torture that his mother inflicted on him, he still loved her. He saved her from drowning in the bathtub and was constantly hyper vigilant about trying to protect her. In return he was molested, abused and tortured. He had a pet cat that he and his siblings nurtured to health. It was the runt of the litter and he had to watch it slowly die because his mother wouldn't take it to the vet. This is just one of the things that they had to live with.
When Gregg and his siblings were finally rescued from the house of horrors, they went to their sister Lauren's house. She and Tim, her control freak husband and she took every opportunity to work and humiliate them. They were never shown love or compassion. Gregg worked like a dog trying to learn because they were all very behind in school. Many times they were not in school and when they were they were humiliated and bullied. Gregg overcome many things, got involved in sports and finally was able to catch up academically. His sister Lauren, I believe was very jealous of Gregg. When he continued to strive to better himself, she belittled him and never encouraged him. He still worked and studied as hard as he could. When she saw that she couldn't break his spirit, she made him move you, without any explanation.
He was sent to his other sister Jessica's house. He was sent from one hell to another one. She was drinking and was viler in some ways than Lauren. Gregg cracked under the hopelessness and started fighting. All the rage that he had built up inside was acted out on other guys who were abused young men too. It is amazing that he was able to overcome that. He later was able to bring his grades back up, got out of drinking, and self-destructive behavior and through a set of miracles was supported, loved and encouraged by two men along with many other professors at Siena University. One was a coach, Pat Palmer. The other was another amazing man, Dr. Ed Skinner. He helped Gregg work through a lot of his trauma and pain. Pat Palmer and Ed Skinner are a couple of God's angels that worked in Gregg's life. If it weren't for them and their love and encouragement, I don't know if Gregg would have been able to make it.
Gregg is also honest about behavior that was not so flattering, his promiscuity, and inability to emotionally connect in his relationships with young women. This is no surprise considering his relationship with his monster mother. I am sure he is better today. The kind of damage that he and his siblings endured does not go without leaving some severe dysfunction. It can be overcome and I am sure that if anyone can overcome it, it is Gregg.
This is a must read if you have ever been abused. This is a must read if you know anyone that has been abused. This is a must read if you are an abuser and you want to change. It will show you what your actions against children have done to murder their souls. Most children don't survive at least mentally, emotionally or spiritually. Gregg has triumphed and has gone on to become an advocate for children, giving them love, hope and encouragement. He was able to help his little sister, "Pug," whose real name is Lynn. He has lost a lot of unhealthy, toxic relationships with many family members and has gone on to create healthy loving relationships with others today.
I consider Gregg to be a friend, a fellow survivor and it has been an honor to meet him and to do a review of "God Must Be Sleeping." You can buy it at Amazon."
Ms. Shana Dines, Reporter
Elkhart Art League & Associated Content
The People's Media Company
April 26, 2014
"Gregg gives hope to hopelessness, Gregg selflessly & bravely shares with others to inspire his message that we are here to help each other! A story of True resilience, healing is imperative! Disclosure will set one free to move forward, & this requires support. So Proud of Gregg for taking control back over his life, & look at what he has accomplished!!
His 3rd book is out in June- a must read of how he overcame tragedy & trauma and make the most of his life in spite of the past."
April 25, 2014
London, United Kingdom
"Very emotional and overwhelming interview. Brave of u for speaking out Gregg xx"
April 25, 2014
"Tyler, you are wonderful !"
April 25, 2014
[Excerpted from online postings by readers - April 25, 2014]
"Looking forward to it! I am about three quarters through God must be Sleeping. I can't believe what a survivor you are! God bless you love you brother."
"Gregg be proud of yourself it is a taboo subject and you had the guts to speak out it takes a very very special person to do that and I'm sad to say it goes on more than we know xxx."
"I agree that you are brave!!! And strong.....and encouraging.....and inspiring........and I have to say--- pretty darn cute :) You are making a difference and helping so many. I am proud to call you my friend.."
"It is because of this interview that I went to see Gregg in Adrian Michigan when he spoke! He is such an inspiration. God bless him. He is a lot stronger person than I could ever be."
"Your books and your talks are an inspiration to so many, Gregg."
"After months of trying to get me to verbalize, my advocate, dear Kelly, figured it out. She showed me this video and I finally broke down and was able to talk about it. I never imagined anyone else in this world as having a mother as twisted as mine. Thank you, Gregg. If you wouldn't have had the courage to speak up, I would not be here today and working on my PhD. You rock!"
"Why do you say you were brave only once?? You live bravery, courage, compassion and strength every day and the rest of the world sees it. Much love to you and your dear family."
"Gregg Tyler Milligan!!! (Used my best shocked mom voice that always seems to make my kids laugh.) You are BRAVE! There are so many positive and great words in the dictionary to describe you, brave is one of them. Your advocacy alone speaks of your bravery."
"Gregg Tyler Milligan You are all so incredibly amazing. With people like you in this world, it makes it so much more clearer why we are here. Yay to you!"
"As I watched this the first time I sat amazed by Gregg's gentleness after all he has been through. As my husband said, when you go through something like this you choose to repeat the behavior, be militant and angry or you choose to be like Gandhi and fight it with peace and love. Gregg has chosen to live life with love and love. You are an inspiration that you can break the cycle."
"...My family and I feel the same way about you. You are our angel in the darkness and we are so thankful for you. God bless you dearest friend."
"I went to Siena University (sorry for the spelling) obviously I didn't go to the college there. But it was because of this interview that I went out of my way and the distance to hear him speak. He is one of the most inspiring, sensitive, kind people I have ever met. What a survivor. I can't believe that he has been able to overcome all that he has. I read a Beautiful World, his first book, and am reading God Must be Sleeping now, It is very difficult to read because of the horrible abuse that he and his siblings endured. It is amazing that he has been able to be so brutally honest about the horrors and humiliation that he has suffered. More amazing is what he has been able to accomplish and survive. God bless you Gregg, I consider you a dear friend and brother. You must read God must be Sleeping."
April 16, 2014
"I am in the middle of the book. I started it over with the Beautiful World. It is gut wrenching as it was before. I don't know how you survived, and your sisters and siblings too. Horrible. On top of that, your sensitivity is amazing and your ability to have some compassion and empathy for your siblings is beyond description. It is hard reading but so important. Reading it the first time I was more into your story, and now I remember what a gifted, raw artist and writer that you are.
Thanks for your prayers and love too."
April 11, 2014
Santa Clarita, CA
"Gregg, bravo and thanks for your work.
Founder, Executive Director
April 10, 2014
"THANK YOU for using your phenomenal, amazing, out of this world gifts of writing, speaking along with your incredible heart and mind filled with wisdom and compassion to make this world a better place for all of us."
April 9, 2014
I listened to your speech this morning - WWWOOOWWWWW!!! it was SO incredible - I loved how you tied your story into the whole-world model of education + compassion = wisdom and you connected your own experience to the broader examples in society whether they be parents or presidents - whatever the station in life or whatever event it is- abuse is about control and power over another exercised without compassion - and whether it's another person being abused or an oil spill - we only have 2 resources - human/natural and we must protect them as they are all we have.
And how it's really simple - and you apply this perspective and we all can when making choices - is it going to help me or someone else - hurt me or someone else - and when you don't abuse - when you have compassion for yourselves and others- you feel better - you don't have to look over your shoulder and feel terrible about yourself and what you are doing; abuse breaks down relationships, society, the world. If we don't realize this - we all will suffer and die. And how you tied that into the audience's experience who see the decimation every day - AWARE, law enforcement, everyone - we see when people act without compassion - they suffer and die - and in between are addictions, abuse of others, incarceration.
I LOVED LOVED LOVED how you showed all the connections between your story and the points of truth and wisdom of what you've come to realize through your work / study / experience with real life examples people could relate to as you were speaking. PERFECT just like your third book I'm sure is going to be!!
I loved how you tied our compassion in with saving ourselves and each other and how the orgs like AWARE are critical - and we cannot make it alone (your joke about being the one to tell the crowd that was funny - your jokes all the way through were very funny!) And orgs like AWARE aren't just saving the individual - they are saving humanity and bringing sustainability and stability to the neighborhood, towns, cities and world - and you then further connected that to your travel to other countries and that there should be no boundaries - whether geographical gender or race - what does matter is HUMANITY.
It was absolutely perfect and masterful. Especially how you built up to the end - it was SOOO INSPIRING!! I loved how you said you wanted not to be just a survivor BUT thrive - and so you give back - and how people have helped you - compassion has made it POSSIBLE for you to raise a son, for you, Pug to live - for you to be happy. And we know how to eradicate abuse and will. The abused aren't broken, the abusers are.
And finally - your closing point - how the world belongs to the compassionate - the survivors - those with empathy - and it's never going to change - you PROMISE.
WOOWWWWWW!!!!!!! Way to NAIL IT!! CONGRATULATIONS!!!"
April 5, 2014
Hazel Park, MI
"It is 12:45 and I just finished reading your Book, Gregg. One other night it was about the same time I put it down. You write so well! However you have lived through so much and are still "whole" is a miracle. There were a few close calls. But you "weathered the storms".
I said my night prayers at 8:00 tonight because I wanted to read. I'm really laughing because my schedule the last four days, I think, has been what it used to be during a break from school at Christmas or Easter many, many long years ago. It was time we really needed time to relax so we cut out anything that wasn't necessary and always had a good book handy that we wanted to read.
I was just going to read your book for an hour at a time, but that wasn't what happened. My "retirement" schedule wasn't too full this week and I decided not to fill in any spots. I did go to a wake today though and went to an extra meeting, but generally had almost "vacation" time.
Love always, Sr. Barbara, O.P."
March 16, 2014
"I am reading your book it's so hard I too was abused I hope you are doing well you have such a beautiful face I hope you have someone who loves cherishes and treats you as the treasure you are and always have been going all the way back to when you were a sweet and innocent boy.
I just finished your book thank you for writing it I realize it must have been very difficult. A mothers love should be a primal thing and when it's not it's as if there is something inherently wrong with you. This is something I still struggle with. Funny how once the total destruction a person puts on you is over you continue to try and destroy yourself I'm glad you survived and that you broke the cycle with your son. You look happy in your pictures I hope you are."
January 15, 2014
"Nothing like a great book and a fire! Literally can't stop reading A Beautiful World/God Must Be Sleeping by Gregg Tyler Milligan. Such an amazing story!"